The day of chocolates, cheesiness, wine, and mushy couples is fast approaching. For those who are recently divorced— the day might feel like a little slap in the face. But we’re here to help you through it. Surviving Valentine’s Day as a new single can be a lot more fun than you think. It’s about laughing, good friends, good movies, or even just good wine. Surviving Valentine’s day doesn’t have to be about loving anyone but yourself— you heard it here first, folks.

Surviving Valentine’s Day as a New Single

Pick your approach

Do you want to do a big dinner with all your single friends? Go for it! Whatever means you choose of ‘celebrating’, whether it’s: dinner, movies, wine, or holding up in the house like a hermit— you’ve gotta commit. It might feel silly to go out and celebrate a day marketed as the day of love— but love isn’t all about loving someone else. And on the flip side, you could always just host a big dinner at your place. Fill your house with good friends, and laughter.

Show a little self love

As we’ve said, love isn’t all for other people. Love is for loving yourself too. Find whatever ‘treat yo self’ means in your book, and do that. Whether it’s a long bath, new sheets, a fresh manicure, or a new outfit— do something for you. While we all roll our eyes at Valentine’s day, there’s no denying it feels a little lonely when you’re watching everyone else have all the fun. So, spoil yourself this Valentine’s day. Shoot, maybe you even buy yourself a card while you’re at it.

Remember to laugh at this whole thing

If you need a reminder as to why Valentine’s day is hokey— look up the St. Valentine’s Day Massacre. Then, read about how V day got it’s start… not too romantic is it? I know it seems a bit anti-establishment, but the best way to kick the V day blues? Is remind yourself that gang warfare and ancient Roman priests are what made this holiday a household name.

Pick your genre

Follow up your friends dinner with some good, or purposefully bad, movies. Find the worst romantic comedies, or the cheesiest scary movies— we’re coming for you My Bloody Valentine. End your night laughing on the couch with your best friends. We all say that Valentine’s day is gonna be a breeze. But it’s just plain tough that first year after a divorce. So, do what you’ve gotta do and have some fun with the people you love