When considering divorce, it is important to think seriously about what you want in the long run. Divorce is serious, and it is not uncommon of couples to reconcile following a divorce. Therefore, many couples will elect to reconcile their marriage or do a trial separation before going through with divorce proceedings. A divorce can be messy, clinical, and often brings out the worst versions of each party involved. Therefore, considering trial separation and reconciliation is the answer for many.
Trial Separation Periods and Reconciliation: Making Divorce A Last Resort
When it comes to trial separation periods, treating this as a test-run is the best way to go. How will you support yourself? Do you enjoy being alone? What do you ultimately want? Asking yourself these questions will help you think about these things in depth before you take the plunge. Not to mention, some spouses will use this opportunity to remember what it is that they loved so much about their spouse in the first place.
Marriages can tire over the years. Often one or both of the people involved will stop putting the marriage first and become more engaged in other things. By doing so, it is very easy for them to remember what it was all about in the beginning. Simply put, they haven’t stopped caring— they’ve just forgotten what they cared about in the first place. It is not uncommon for a couple to divorce and then fall in love with each other once again. You’ve shared a lot with this person over the years, it is not unlikely that you still have a deep connection with this person.
Sometimes, the relationship itself is worth more than the conflict.
This is what many couples will realize as they go through a trial separation. Maybe there are problems, no marriage is perfect, but realizing that there is a willingness to fight on both sides is the first step to reconciliation. Sometimes, the reasons are more selfless than selfish. For example, if a couple has children who are still living at home. Many times both sides of the marriage will have more of a willingness to try and make things work if they have children.
Sometimes, the whole process just seems daunting.
Therefore, a trial separation and reconciliation will often be the first step because the process of divorce seems daunting. As we’ve mentioned, divorce is very often a messy experience for everyone involved. Therefore, treating this as a last resort can often save everyone time, money, and heartache in the event that you change your decision.