It can be hard to trust again after a divorce. Combined with other post-divorce feelings of anger, guilt, and resentment, losing that ability to trust makes it difficult to get your life back on track. However, rebuilding trust post-divorce is possible, and will let you get control of your life again…
Rebuilding Trust Post-Divorce
Trust and betrayal
Usually, a lack of trust post-divorce comes from a feeling of betrayal after the end of a long-term marriage. This can be true if your marriage ended due to something like infidelity, or if you both just grew apart. In the end, you may feel that your divorce was a betrayal of the marriage vows you and your ex had spoken to each other.
This can not only make it hard to trust others, but also yourself. You might start to doubt yourself more often and lack self-confidence. However, when rebuilding trust post-divorce, it’s important to remember that this one instance isn’t the end of the world.
Don’t let divorce define you
Divorce isn’t an easy process. It’s crucial to remember, though, that this one instance doesn’t define you forever. It doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to love or heal yourself.
Instead, consider how this situation has actually shown you how unhealthy your relationship was. A relationship without trust is a relationship that won’t last. It’s better to focus on finding someone who understands the value of trust than being with someone who doesn’t. Once you understand that, then you can focus on rebuilding trust post-divorce.
Reflect and grow
Take some time and ask yourself who you trust and depend on. These can be your family, friends, even your pets! They are always there for you, and you are always there for them. Right there, you have found examples of people who trust you, and people you can trust.
This process is key to rebuilding trust post-divorce. Redirect your negative feelings of betrayal into positive ones of acceptance. It all starts with trusting yourself again. One you do that, then you can begin to open yourself up to trusting in a relationship once more.