Many people after their divorce struggle with moving forward. It’s hard for them to just forget their marriage, as well as the divorce itself, especially if it was difficult. However, it’s also very important to start letting go of the past once the dust has settled. There are a few things you can try out if you find yourself stuck like this…
Moving Forward: How To Let Go
Take time to grieve
Before you can begin moving forward from these emotions, you have to first process them. You can’t start to let go of these feelings if you don’t give yourself time to feel them in the first place. Therefore, don’t be afraid to allow yourself some time to grieve what has been lost.
These emotions can come in a wide variety. You might feel sad, angry, disappointed, and a whole host of other feelings. However, what’s important is you allow yourself to feel this way for a moment. Not doing so will only let them linger and get worse and worse over time.
Be honest with yourself
It’s also important to be honest with yourself when you want to start moving forward. Many times, people will look back on their relationships with rose-tinted glasses. They’ll downplay the issues and over-exaggerate the good parts. This creates a false perception of the marriage, and can leave you thinking it wasn’t all that bad.
However, this clearly isn’t the case considering how things ended up. Be honest about those bad times, how they made you feel, and what they did to your relationship. That way, you can learn from the past, and move forward into the future with new, healthy expectations for relationships.
Visualize your future
Worries about the future are another common problem that makes moving forward harder. The future is always somewhat uncertain, especially after something like a divorce. As a result, many people just don’t want to think about it, or struggle to visualize something good.
However, it’s important to realize you now have the ability to shape your future how you want. You’re the one in control, which means you get to determine what you do or don’t want to do. Plus, this is a great time to maybe pursue some former goals you had to place on the back-burner due to your marriage.